Saying Goodbye to Jane the Virgin’s Most Important Relationship

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Jane the Virgin, an under-watched gem of a series, ends its five-season run tonight with an appropriately tidy 100 episodes. There’s a lot to be said about Jane’s many strengths, and in a usual farewell article, I would talk about all of them. I would mention the scene stealing work Yael Grobglas put in year after year, the complicated but always loving relationship between women of three generations, what the show’s existence meant for the Latinx community, how it gave us one of the decade’s most dynamic characters in Rogelio de la Vega, and what a relief its candy-colored palette was in a time when even my favorite comedy takes place in hell. People don’t throw around the word “perfect” very often when it comes to TV shows, but Jane the Virgin was damn near close.

I could also talk extensively about what the show’s meant to me personally, that wannabe writer Jane popped up in my life when I was at that crossroads myself, stuck between my teaching degree and what I actually wanted. I cried when Jane got her massive $500,000 book deal in last week’s episode, not out of jealousy or sadness, but because I was genuinely happy for her, a character whose journey vibrates with aching realism. As a lifelong Catholic, I could also mention that Jane’s take on religion was respectful and nuanced, acknowledging the Church’s many flaws and wrestling with Jane’s existence as a sex-positive feminist who, yes, is also Catholic.

But instead of going long on any of those aspects of the show, I want to talk about its most important and most improbable pairing: Jane and Petra. Because, on a show with one of the most hotly debated love triangles in history, the relationship I found most affecting was completely platonic. In the last few seasons, Jane and Petra’s friendship has become a constant, to the point that it’s easy to forget just how antagonistic it was in the beginning. The two don’t actually meet until the series’ second episode, at Jane’s first ultrasound appointment. It’s actually a pleasant encounter, but only because Petra is trying to manipulate Jane into giving her and Rafael her unborn baby. They spend most of the first two seasons hating each other, until Petra gives birth to Anna and Elsa midway through season two. 

I love the birth episode, because it’s the first hint of what their relationship will become, with Jane softening Petra and Petra making Jane bold. There’s Jane, who can’t help but say yes when Petra asks her to come to her birthing class. There’s Petra, who realizes she’s pissed on Jane’s behalf when another author steals her idea. And of course, there’s Petra giving birth, with Jane treating her with a compassion unlike anything Petra’s experienced before. It’s not all sunshine and roses after the birth episode, but the two settle into an often frustrating, but exceedingly believable friendship, thanks in no small part to Petra’s evolution. When newly engaged Jane and Michael find a dream house that’s further away than Rafael would like, Petra tells him to suck it up. Then, when that house falls through, Petra buys a different one and insists that Jane and Michael never know she’s the owner. It’s Petra’s first purely unselfish move of the series, and she does it for Jane.

Another big turn in their friendship happens when Rafael is in jail and Michael has just passed away. A lot of work happens in the three-year time jump that follows, but the fact that there isn’t an abrupt change but rather a subtle one when the show picks back up again shows how well-earned their friendship is. Their weekly brunches during that time period are when their relationship becomes a given, which lessens the burden of it, allowing them to fight and be honest with each other in a way they weren’t before. In fact, the one time after this where it seems like Jane is really angry and maybe their relationship isn’t a given, Petra immediately panics, barging into Jane’s house with a traditional Czech breakfast after Jane cancels brunch. There’s a defiance to it, Petra’s way of saying “No, I will fight for this friendship.” Prior to her relationship with Jane, Petra had hardly ever seen people as worth fighting for, and that’s one of the biggest changes in her character throughout the series.

Still though, their friendship maintains a one-step-forward-two-steps-back rhythm for much of the show, sustained by a couple of things, one of which is Jane goading Petra into admitting how much she cares about her. One of my favorite instances of this is in “Chapter Seventy-Nine” when Jane tells Petra she loves her and insists she say it back. Petra, embarrassed that this whole exchange is happening in the lobby of the Marbella, begrudgingly says it before giving Jane a tiny kiss on the head and rushing away. It’s adorable and funny, an example of the writers and actors infusing the friendship with such heart that you can’t help but root for it.

Another hallmark of Jane and Petra’s friendship would start with Petra doing something selfish or casually cruel to the point where I would sometimes wonder why Jane was even bothering with her, that this was surely the thing that would do in their tenuous friendship. But then Petra would make some quietly devastating comment that didn’t excuse whatever she’d said or done but did explain it. What’s more, each time there was a sense that she didn’t mean to say whatever it was, but Jane somehow brought it out of her. 

One of my favorite examples of this happened this season, albeit when Jane and Petra’s friendship is in a much more stable place. Jane and Petra are arguing about Anna and Elsa leaving Mateo out, and Petra’s getting defensive when she suddenly yells, “That’s life! You don’t think I ever feel left out?” The scene happens after Michael has just come back from the dead, and Petra realizes that Jane told everyone in her life but her. And that’s what it comes down to: Petra upset that her friend didn’t confide in her. The ensuing conversation is a marvel, one of my favorites of theirs in the entire series. It’s also textbook Jane, taking a moment “straight out of a telenovela” and finding something breathtakingly human in it. 

Jane and Petra’s friendship changes a lot throughout the series, one of its many moving parts. But it’s also one of the most constant relationships on the show, present regardless of who they are dating, married to, or, at some points, both in love with. Because, yes, the fact that Jane and Petra have the relationship they do despite spending a decent chunk of the series in love with the same guy is pretty incredible, and evidence of how Jane eschews stereotypes at every turn. 

The series will partly be remembered for its romantic relationships, as it should be. Michael surprising Jane at their wedding by saying his vows in Spanish, Rafael proposing at her dining room table, whatever exceedingly romantic thing happens in the series finale tonight, are all great moments. But, when I think about Jane, I’ll also remember Petra making soup and dressing up like the tooth fairy to cheer Jane up after Xo’s cancer diagnosis. I’ll remember Jane taking care of Petra after she and J.R. broke up. And I’ll definitely remember the two of them hugging in a pop-up tent, calling each other sisters while their kids played together outside. Jane was billed as an over-the-top telenovela that was sneakily a quiet character study. So it feels right that, despite brimming with romance, Jane the Virgin’s most important relationship was a complicated, messy, ultimately beautiful friendship between two women.

2018 in Review: The 10 Best Shows

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As is usually the case with my Year in Review posts, these are in no particular order, mostly because it’s hard enough to just pick ten :).

I’d call 2018 a great year for returning shows, but just an o.k. one for new shows, especially on network TV. Because of that, all of my top ten are returning favorites who had particularly great years or just continued doing what was already working. Obviously, I don’t watch everything, so this is by no means a definitive list, but rather the best of what I got around to.

  1. Brooklyn Nine-Nine. By season five, a lot of comedies have become caricatures of themselves. Brooklyn Nine-Nine has somehow done the opposite, not only maintaining the greatness of the first couple seasons but actually improving on it. This year alone had Rosa’s lovely, bittersweet coming out story; “The Box,” which cleverly turned the show’s usual format on its head; and “Show Me Going,” where Rosa responded to an active shooter situation, all of which tackled serious issues or new ideas without tonal whiplash. Of course, this year also brought more of the sweet, silly fun we expect, from arguably their best cold open ever to Amy and Jake’s hilarious, romantic nuptials.
  2. Late Night with Seth Meyers. Seth Meyers remains my favorite of the five-shows-a-week late night hosts, especially for political commentary. “A Closer Look” talks about news intelligently and with just enough wit that it becomes palatable, but never a cloying spoonful of sugar. The show also walks the walk when it comes to diversity and inclusion, featuring great segments like “Amber Says What” and “Jokes Seth Can’t Tell.” Plus, watching Meyers tell the story of his second kid’s dramatic birth in the lobby of their apartment building (complete with emotional kudos to his wife) was legitimately one of the sweetest, most entertaining TV moments this year.
  3. Jane the Virgin. This show is definitely in the consistently good category, but this year was somehow my favorite so far. There was so much to love about the back half of season four especially, which found Jane and Raf in a healthy, mature, but also hot as hell, relationship and Petra continuing to evolve, both in her wonderfully messy friendship with Jane and new romance with J.R. Plus, we had Xo’s heartbreaking cancer diagnosis (played beautifully by Andrea Navedo and Jaime Camil), Alba finally taking her citizenship test, Jane’s totally relatable career dilemmas…I could go on, and I haven’t even mentioned that crazy cliffhanger.
  4. GLOW. This year, the ladies of GLOW avoided the sophomore slump in glorious fashion by expanding on what worked well in the first season: Ruth and Sam’s complex dynamic, the empathetic portrayal of Debbie and Ruth’s friendship, and of course, the hilarity and sweetness that comes from watching a bunch of supportive women wrestle each other. With Ruth and Sam, they added a genuine warmth and mutual respect; with Debbie and Ruth, a continued understanding that neither woman is the villain. And, with the rest of their insanely talented cast, a hospital “cheer up” montage that turned a good episode into my favorite of the season.
  5. The Good Fight. In what’s becoming a theme on this list, the first season of The Good Fight was excellent on its own but became even sharper and more specific in its second year. I’ve talked about the show as the perfect microcosm of the Trump era, which became even clearer as our favorite Chicago lawyers were hunted down this year, unable to shake the foreboding that’s plagued many of us since the 2016 election. It makes sense, too, that Diane Lockhart remains a fascinating portrait of a woman handling the Trump years with equal parts furious, measured resolve and tailspinning mania, exploring microdosing and martial arts while reaching new heights in her career and refusing to let an ex who continues to disappoint define her.
  6. Legends of Tomorrow. LOT is the rare show that isn’t trying to be prestigious by any means; rather, it succeeds because it knows exactly what it is: an exceedingly silly, action-packed romp with perhaps the zaniest cast of characters I’ve ever encountered. Chock full of various castoffs from the Arrow-verse, every character becomes more fun when they board the Waverider. For example, Sara, a character I found overly morose on Arrow, has slowly become one of the most dynamic characters around. This year, she started a relationship with Ava, an actual robot, and turned it into one of the sweetest romances on air. I could do this with pretty much every character on the show, which is Legends’ biggest strength.
  7. One Day at a Time. This show reminds me a lot of Brooklyn Nine-Nine in that it’s effortlessly inclusive but never makes tackling important issues feel like, well, issues. This year had the adorableness of Elena and Syd, a teenage lesbian couple; a storyline that addressed guns in the home in a frighteningly specific way; and an entire episode devoted to Penelope going off her antidepressants that never succumbed to the temptation to make light of it. It’s also not afraid to make you cry; I thought last season’s finale was emotional until I saw season two’s. But impressively, ODaaT is also just a funny, sweet family sitcom, one that never sees that format as a barrier or blueprint that must be followed to a T.
  8. The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel. Despite a slightly disappointing finale, the second season of Maisel was just as enjoyable for me as the first. It smartly maintained the frothy fun of the first season, with its larger than life characters and pastel-colored version of NYC. This year, though, Maisel proved its worldbuilding skills aren’t confined to the Big Apple, offering dreamy, immersive takes on late 1950s Paris and the lush fun of the Catskills. This season was lower on plot, higher on tangents and stand-alone episodes and gorgeous nuggets of scenes I wanted to go on forever. It’s the perfect example of a show getting a lot of creative freedom in its second season and doing exactly what it should with it.
  9. The Good Place. I’m pretty much constantly waxing poetic about The Good Place, which slightly edged out Brooklyn Nine-Nine as my favorite comedy of the year. This show has such a high degree of difficulty, making it even more impressive that this year’s episodes were so good. Eleanor, Chidi, and the rest of the gang proved they’re meant to be, regardless of time, place, and even memories. Michael, a literal demon, continued to surprise by becoming the steady moral center of the group. And Janet…well, Janet mostly became an even more impressive vehicle for portrayer D’arcy Carden. Whether quietly developing her character’s human-like empathy, showing off stunt skills in a bar fight, or giving one of the best performances of the year in the insane—and aptly named—“Janet(s),” Carden is a big part of why The Good Place continues to work.
  10. Crazy Ex-Girlfriend. Coming off Rebecca’s brutal suicide attempt at the end of 2017, our title heroine embraced her diagnosis this year while slowly building herself and her relationships back up, realistic backsliding included. Appropriately, as Rebecca started to look outward, so did the show, having Paula bond with her teenage sons, Heather take major steps in her amusingly no-nonsense way, and Valencia move cross-country with new girlfriend Beth. CEG also had a ton of fun with unexpected pairings and storyline moves this year, from the fun road trip episode this season, to the brilliant mid-episode time jump in season three. Plus, their recent reinvention of Greg led to the charming “Hello, Nice to Meet You,” my favorite song of theirs this year.

What were the best shows you watched in 2018? Hit the comments, and let me know!